Welcome back. I stopped writing before because I was too upset to be able to finish my recount of what happened. As a reminder, I had just gotten the best bathroom renovation that Melbourne had ever seen, and then a month later I got the news that my husband’s mother would be moving in. This was one week ago now, and I’m now coming to terms with the fact that we will have to ruin our brand new and absolutely perfect bathroom to create a wheelchair accessible bathroom design for his mother.
I’m a mess. My husband tried to comfort me and said that his siblings would pay for any renovations we needed to make to our house. I told him that it wasn’t about the money, it was about the fact that we just spent months designing a bathroom that I absolutely love and now we have to ruin it. I wasn’t even consulted in the decision to have his mother move in with us, and we’re supposed to be a team. This whole thing is a massive kick in the guts.
Unfortunately, I don’t have a choice in the matter and the whole thing is going ahead. All I can do now is be gracious about it, and get in contact with the professional bathroom designers in the Melbourne CBD who did our original bathroom renovation. The bathroom renovation that I love more than anything in the world. Wow, it hurts.
I don’t usually like dragging other people into my relationship, but I really need advice here. Is this something that I should just suck up and let happen for the sake of my husband and our relationship, or should I put my foot down? It’s a really tough one. I don’t understand why none of my husband’s siblings can take on their mum. It seems like he’s drawn the short straw because he’s the youngest and he’s never had a backbone.